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There is a wealth of information out there but sometimes what you really need are some practical tips to help you get through the divorce/separation process. Like setting up a designated email address for all matters relating to your divorce, to gathering together your financial information.

Quite often no one knows how to go about choosing a solicitor to provide you with legal advice and how you might prepare for any meetings with them. The better prepared you are the more benefit and use you will get out of those meetings.

Here is some information and practical tips to get you started.

 

Preparing for Separation

While some people are entirely blindsided by the end of their relationship, there are very many that anticipate that a separation may be coming. Whilst burying your head in the sand is an entirely normal reaction, so is preparing as far as you are able, for what is to come. Some ideas to consider are:

  • If you do not already have one, you may wish to work with a therapist to help you in reaching a decision and preparing for the end of your relationship. If you have a productive relationship with that therapist they will be able to provide continuous support during and after your separation.
  • Try, as best as you are able, to identify your assets and liabilities and those of your partner as far as they are known to you. It is the first information that a solicitor will require to be able to give you any advice about financial outcomes.
  • Gather together financial documents which you may require as part of any disclosure process.
  • Depending upon the circumstances of your relationship it may be helpful to start keeping a diary noting conversations, childcare arrangements or similar. This may be for your own use or may have evidential value in the future if something is disputed.
  • Seek legal advice at the right time. You may wish to speak with a solicitor for some initial advice about possible outcomes as part of your decision making process so that you know what the reality of your life may look like.
  • Give some thought to potential long term outcomes as this may in turn inform how you should deal with some shorter term issues as they arise. For example, if you have an arrangement in mind for the children you may wish to have regard for that in the immediate aftermath of your separation when agreeing the interim arrangements for their care.
  • Think about setting up a separate designated email address for your solicitors and all issues related to your separation. It has the benefit of being secure (if not accessed on shared devices) and means that you can log in to deal with any correspondence when you are ready to do so.

Choosing a Family Law Solicitor

For most clients, getting divorced is the first time that they have instructed a solicitor outside of preparing wills or dealing with house sales or purchases. Instructing a family law solicitor is a wholly different experience.

Whoever you instruct, you are likely to be working with them very closely for a period of several months, sharing with them the most personal and important aspects of your life as well as paying them significant sums. You must feel confident and comfortable with them.

You may choose to work at the outset with a Divorce Consultant who has oversight of the family law market and will take time to match you with the solicitor with the style, approach and expertise best suited to your case. Alternatively, you may wish to speak to trusted friends or professional advisors as to who they recommend, but do approach those with caution, just because a particular solicitor achieved a great result for your neighbour, they may not be the right fit for you.

Generally speaking all solicitors are likely to give you similar advice as they are advising on the same law. Where they will differ is on their approaches, working practices and charging rates. It may be worth having an initial short chat with two or three solicitors before deciding who to instruct: this should be sufficient time to get a feel for their style and whether you think you will be able to work well together.

When you do speak or meet there are various practical questions that you may wish to put to them including:

  • How hands on they are. Will they be working on your case or delegating day to day matters to a more junior member of their teams.
  • Their charging rates and those likely to be involved on your case although this can be a red herring as some solicitors are much faster/slower than others!
  • Their working hours, availability in the months ahead and expected response times.
  • What proportion of their cases are in court proceedings and how many of their cases settle outside of court which will give you some indication as to their leanings.

Changing Solicitors

You may find that your case is underway and you are having second thoughts about your solicitor. It is fairly common as most people who want family law advice do so urgently and do not take the time to research the market before instructing a solicitor.

For most clients, getting divorced it is the first time that they have instructed a solicitor outside of preparing wills or dealing with house sales or purchases: instructing a solicitor to deal with the most important and personal aspects of your life who do not charge on a fixed fee basis is wholly different.

The most frequent complaints that clients tend to have are that a solicitor is too passive, too aggressive, not available enough, that they do not like their charging practices or just that you do not feel that you are working well together.

If you are considering changes, it is important to speak to a few solicitors before you decide who to instruct.

Generally while one change of solicitor is unlikely to be noticed, if it is something that happens multiple times during a case adverse inferences may be drawn as to the reasons for this, so you need to be confident that your new solicitor will be the right one for you.

There are practical issues that you need to think about when changing solicitors as there is likely to be a practical delay in the transfer of your file from one firm to another. Your current solicitor is entitled to hold on to your file until all of the outstanding fees owing to them have been paid. For this reason the timing of your move will need to be carefully considered around any significant deadlines which it may make sense to move before or after. There is also likely to be a cost to your new solicitors of reading into your file which will be an additional cost to you. They will generally be pleased to be instructed so you may be able to agree a fixed fee or reduced hourly rate for their doing so.

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